Comments on: Know Thyself: How Homo Are You?

By: Bruce N. Stein

Bruce N. Stein — Thu, 28 May 2009 16:38:05 +0000

I chose 10% as I like chicks plain and simple. However, I don’t find male affection repulsive by any stretch, and do have a (mostly academic) interest in it in regards to my own experimentations. However, there’s also a very specific (and hilarious) m/m/f situation that I have on my “List of Things to Do Before I Die”, and accomplishing such would require at least some level of “teh gay”. It is the case, though, that the f/f/m situations that are locked in my head are far more numerous and much more preferably. However, none of them are on my List… huh.

By: puredoxyk

puredoxyk — Thu, 28 May 2009 15:11:39 +0000

Yes, having only a handful of labels that are socially understood makes things harder for everybody, I think. Of course, not too long ago we didn’t even really have “bisexual”, so it’s not as if things aren’t improving…just way, way too slowly.

Personally, I’m all about giving people the room to identify themselves however they choose to, including with an explanation if necessary — don’t ask if you don’t want an answer, including one that might not easily fit a common category. Then again, I also think more people should take advantage of “don’t ask”, and keep their noses out of business what isn’t theirs…or at least realize when they’re crossing a line and be accordingly polite.

By: Jadelyn

Jadelyn — Thu, 28 May 2009 04:26:14 +0000

I think another interesting thing to consider here is that, given the three basic categories we’re socially allowed (hetero, homo, bi)…at what percentages do we take on various identities? I’m one of those who identified as 70%. Depending on who’s asking, I’ll either call myself bi, queer, or if I’m really wanting to be specific, mostly-lesbian bisexual. But there have also been times when I’ve identified as lesbian when asked, because that was what felt right to me at that time. Is 70% an acceptable threshold to ID as lesbian, if I’m going to stay with one of the big three descriptors, or do I stick with bi? Would 80% be enough? 90? 100? Where is the line? How homo can one be before one should identify as something other than straight?

Long way of saying, this is why I like the term queer. It encompasses it all, for me.